Areas of Expertise

Emotional Resilience and Self-Care

Divorce can be painful, and your emotional well-being greatly influences the entire experience. Whether you are currently going through the process or recovering from its aftermath, the emotional toll is inevitable. During this time, you will need to make crucial decisions for yourself and your family. Maintaining the emotional strength to handle everything calmly is essential. I will guide you on how to effectively manage your stress and maintain focus during this challenging time.

Self-care is essential for maintaining a well-rounded and fulfilling life during this time. It encompasses various dimensions, including physical health, mental well-being, and emotional balance. Each of these elements plays a critical role in overall happiness and productivity. We will break down your self-care activities into manageable steps. Instead of trying to overhaul your lifestyle overnight, we will make gradual changes that you can stick to long-term.

Areas of Focus:

Physical Health: regular exercise, balanced nutrition, and adequate sleep
Mental Well Being: mindfulness and meditation; continuous learning
Emotional Balance: self-compassion, healthy relationships, and journaling

Co-Parenting

Divorce is especially difficult when children are involved. During this time, their needs should be a priority, and maintaining a stable and consistent approach to parenting is most beneficial to them. Together, we will design a practical routine for you and your children, setting reasonable and appropriate boundaries for a healthy co-parenting relationship. This approach will minimize the impact of the divorce on your children and enhance your future as a new family unit.

Areas of Focus:

Ensuring children feel supported during the divorce process.
Create a daily, structured routine for the children (this will help with anxiety).
Develop parenting time plans that are in the best interests of the children and accommodate the entire family's needs.
Help children adjust to their new circumstances and living in two homes.
Assist with introducing new partners into the family dynamic.
Help both parents align on expectations for the children. (Children thrive when their parents provide consistent rules across both homes).

Effective Communication

Co-parenting requires ongoing and continuous communication, making effective communication essential. When communication is clear and effective, it ensures everyone feels satisfied and accomplished, fostering a positive co-parenting dynamic that supports your children’s well-being and emotional development. This approach minimizes misunderstandings and reduces the potential for conflict between you and your ex-partner or your children.

Areas of Focus:

Learn how to communicate effectively with your children and/or ex-partner.
Use role-playing exercises to build calm, clear, and confident communication with your children and/or ex-partner.
Review emails and texts to your ex-partner to ensure the best possible communication.
Offer guidance on how to tell children about upcoming family changes.

Goal-Setting

Setting goals post-divorce is crucial for moving forward in a healthy and positive way. Remaining stagnant is not an option, and establishing small, attainable goals can significantly aid in the healing process and promote personal growth. Goal-setting can help parents manage their responsibilities more effectively to create a more harmonious family environment. No matter what your goals are—whether it's being a more present parent for your children, managing your budget and adjusting to living on a single income, regaining your sense of control, or building your confidence and self-esteem—setting clear objectives is key to achieving them.

Here is how I can support you in this process:

Identify Core Values and Priorities: Reflect on your core values and what matters most to you. This could include family time, career aspirations, health, and/or personal interests.
Actionable Steps: Break down larger goals into smaller, manageable tasks. This makes the process less overwhelming and easier to tackle.
Monitor Progress and Adjust as Needed: Encourage you to regularly review your goals and assess your progress. This can be done through weekly or monthly check-ins. Be flexible and open to adjusting goals as circumstances change. Life with children can be unpredictable, and it’s important to adapt goals to stay relevant and achievable.
Celebrate Achievements: Recognize and celebrate both small and large accomplishments. Celebrating progress keeps you motivated and reinforces positive behavior. This could be as simple as acknowledging efforts with a special family outing or a personal treat.

Your Next Chapter

Rebuilding your life after divorce is not easy, but I offer my clients the tools to move past their feelings and into action. I help design a life that aligns with your priorities through clear goals, structure, and accountability.

Here's how I can support you:

Clarify Priorities: Discover what truly matters to you and identify your priorities.
Self-Reflection: Guide you through discussions to reflect on your values, passions, and interests. Understanding what genuinely matters to you.
Identify Strengths: Assist you in digging deep to find your strengths and help you recognize your unique skills and talents.
Set Meaningful Goals: Assist you in setting goals that are aligned with your values and strengths. Meaningful goals give direction and motivation, helping you move forward with intention.
Explore Interests: Encourage you to explore new interests and activities. Sometimes, trying new things can lead to unexpected discoveries about what fulfills you.
Overcome Barriers: Work with you to identify and overcome any emotional barriers that might be preventing you from moving forward. This includes addressing fears and limiting beliefs.
Positive Actions: Help you identify and avoid damaging behaviors so you can take positive action and move forward.
Decision-Making: Guide you in making difficult decisions.
Stay Accountable: Provide ongoing support and accountability. Regular check-ins and adjustments ensure that you stay on track and make progress.
Organization and Focus: Help you get organized and focus on what is important.
Relationship Guidance: Offer dating and relationship guidance.